Every time I get on a bike
some man reminds me
the world was not built
for women in motion.
A Coke to the face.
Spit on my cheek.
A honk, a hiss,
a “slut,” a “bitch,”
and once,
a plastic bottle that cracked against my spokes
and made me wobble like prey.
I was twelve.
Twelve years old
and two little white boys thought
They could baptise me in phlegm
for the crime of getting somewhere.
Following me until I reached my destination. Unprovoked. Nothing. Humble back then.
Today:
some polo-shirted prick
through his open fucking window
threw his sticky drink in my face—
like I was a bin, a joke,
a moving target.
Like my body
on the street
is his to mock,
his to drench,
his to stain.
And someone said,
“Maybe you have a vibe.”
Like confidence is a curse.
Like freedom smells like blood to them.
Like maybe I should fold smaller
next time.
I don’t want your fucking apologies.
I want my streets back.
I want to move through the world
without checking corners,
without dodging insults
like bullets,
without my dignity
washed off with cola.
Keep your ‘not all men.’
It’s always men
when the world splits open like this.
Always men
who see a woman
not as human
but as a punchline
in their violence.
I am done being the punchline.
I am the whole fucking poem.
I ride anyway.
Sticky, fuming, finger swinging, unbroken.
I ride like the threat
they always feared I was.
This isn’t the first time. Not by far.
I was twelve the first time a man spat at me while I was cycling. No provocation, no reason—just a girl on a bike, existing. I still remember the sting of it, the shame I didn’t have words for. The way I wanted to disappear but yelled back all the same. It only made him laugh more.
And it’s never really stopped.
This afternoon, I felt good cycling to work. No, I felt great, actually. Hair perfect, black sunglasses on, that rare click in my bones when I know I look like myself—not for anyone else, just me. Strong. Clear. Radiant.
And then a man in a fucking Polo chucked a full McDonald's Coke in my face.
It was so casual, like I was roadkill. Like he’d done it before. Like he was bored.
For two seconds, I wanted to cry. But then my body chose something else. I flipped him the bird, kept cycling, and said, fuck you, you’re not determining my day.
Because I’ve had enough. Enough of shrinking. Enough of questioning what I wear, how I move, whether I should have “smiled more” or “toned it down.” I’m done.
It’s always men. Not a metaphor, not a theory. In my case—always.
And I’m still here. Still biking. Still radiant. Still not yours to stain or silence.
What an absolute waste of space they are. I'm sorry to hear you went through that, and totally relate. I've had plenty of experiences while cycling myself, just being groped while trying to get up a hill, and random men just jumping in front of me so I can't get by, to try and make me fall off the bike. It's always men. It disgusts me.