You Were Married When I Met You – A Poetic Reckoning with Love, Loss, and the Other Side of the Story
Rebecca Rijsdijk’s You Were Married When I Met You is a raw and unflinching poetry collection that delves into the complexities of being "the other woman."
Rebecca Rijsdijk’s You Were Married When I Met You is a raw and unflinching poetry collection that delves into the complexities of being "the other woman." With brutal honesty and aching tenderness, Rijsdijk dismantles the myths and stereotypes surrounding infidelity, love, and self-worth, offering instead a deeply human portrayal of longing, heartbreak, and the slow, painful process of healing.
About the Book
This is not a book about him. It’s about the women who exist in the shadows—women who choose emotionally unavailable partners, who believe in words that don’t align with actions, who find themselves waiting for something that will never come. It’s about shame, silence, and the weight of societal judgment. But more than anything, You Were Married When I Met You is about the moment of reckoning—the moment when a woman stops waiting and starts reclaiming herself.
What You’ll Find in This Collection
Unfiltered Emotion – From whispered confessions to guttural cries of grief, each poem captures the intensity of heartbreak and the slow work of stitching oneself back together.
A Challenge to the Narrative – The ‘other woman’ is not a villain, nor a temptress—she is a person, navigating pain, love, and the often messy terrain of human relationships.
A Journey Through Love and Loss – The poems traverse the highs of passion, the depths of betrayal, and the bittersweet reality of letting go.
Healing and Resilience – Rijsdijk does not shy away from pain, but she also does not let it have the final word. There is power in choosing oneself, in walking away, in learning to love again—starting with the self.
Praise for the Book
"If you have ever experienced the harsh, heart-wrenching reality of unrequited love or have been ‘the other woman’ yourself, you will find this experience both relatable and cathartic – the way a hot blade will cauterize a wound."
– Sarah Herrin, author of One Thousand Questions and No Good Answers and The Oceanography of Her
Who is This Book For?
If you have ever loved someone who was never truly yours, if you have struggled to make sense of betrayal, or if you are searching for a way forward from past heartache, this book will meet you where you are. You Were Married When I Met You is a collection for those who have found themselves trapped in cycles of longing and loss—and for those ready to break free.
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You Were Married When I Met You is a reckoning, a release, and, ultimately, a path toward healing.
Get your copy today and step into a story that may feel painfully familiar but ends in a place of power.